What Is Cuffing Season
According to the “Urban Dictionary” cuffing season is define as a time during the Fall and Winter months when people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed. Every year as the leaves begin to fall, the weather gets brisk, and people find themselves trading in swimsuits for faux-fur coats, we know it’s the beginning of cuffing season.
A theory called “embodied cognition” has been proven in 2008* and 2012** by researchers who were able to show that outside temperatures directly affect our internal sentiments. One study found that feeling temporally cold produced feelings of being alone and isolated. Another study took this a step farther to prove that physical coldness made its subjects more likely to want to watch a romantic movie. The simple equation is that cold weather = a need for body warmth.
The Cold Blooded Truth
About Being Cuffed
You have people realizing their opportunity to meet others is about to drop drastically due to the colder months, so you might as well procure either a temporary partner or a friend with benefits. It’s fine if both parties are looking for something short-term and can admit that they’re cuffed, but not so fine if you’re investing in someone who plans to split the second the snow melts.
It’s Emotionally Risky
Although falling in love is always a risk, cuffing for just a season, only to avoid being alone, is even riskier. It’s like you’re setting yourself up for heartache.
“You can fall for someone even if you go in with the intention of not getting serious, according to Anita A. Chlipala, LMFT, and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple’s Guide to Lasting Love. “This person may not be a good fit but because you have feelings for them, it would be harder to break off the relationship.”
You Could Be Wasting Your Time
Getting involved with someone simply to get through a season immediately closes off opportunities for something better and, in many ways, you’ll just be wasting your time. Isn’t your time precious? “If you’re looking for something serious, you don’t want to waste your time with a short-term partner.”
It’s Better To Keep Your Options Open
Keep yourself available and date until you find a good fit and someone who has similar relationship goals as you. “I’ve often worked with singles where one of the main reasons they were still single is that they spent a lot of time and energy on people who weren’t a good fit, and also needed time to heal from the breakups. And if you fall in love as mentioned above, it’s harder to leave a relationship.
Finding a worthwhile partner can be a serious process. Although online dating gives us access to hundreds of potential matches a day, it’s nevertheless a daunting task to sift through them all until you find someone who really just gets you.