Reasons To Marry
Marriage is defined differently, and by different entities, based on cultural, religious, and personal factors. A commonly accepted and encompassing definition of marriage is the following: a formal union and social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally.
The contractual marriage agreement usually implies that the couple has legal obligations to each other throughout their lives or until they decide to divorce. Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage. Traditionally, marriage is often viewed as having a key role in the preservation of morals and civilization.
Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. No marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do people manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can couples keep the spark alive?
Traditionally, marriage is often viewed as having a key role in the preservation of morals and civilization.
At first glance, it seems like married men might be a dying breed, as more and more guys are deciding that the whole wedding thing just isn’t for them. Commercials, movies and sitcoms frequently represent married men as bumbling screw-ups, suffering under the judgmental eye of their all-knowing wives.
Every day, married guys are told that they have given up their freedom or that they have been emasculated. But married men don’t mind all the ribbing. They can take the jokes from the media, and from all of their immature, misogynistic friends. They can handle it all because, in truth, they know they have it way better than the single guys do.
You may think that marriage is for suckers, but we’re here to give your head a shake. In fact, we’ll bet that most of you, if interrogated privately away from your binge-drinking bachelor buddies, wouldn’t hesitate to admit that deep down you hope to get married someday. And that’s a good thing because being married is ultimately way better than being single.
Reasons To Get Married
- Marriage helps you live longer. One of the ways that getting married improves your life is by making it last longer. Various studies have indicated that happily married men tend to outlast their single counterparts. For example, a 2006 study performed by University of California researchers contended that single people are five times more likely to die of infectious disease, nearly 40% more likely to die of heart disease and twice as likely to die accidentally. Other studies suggest that the rate of mortality is a whopping 250% higher among single men than it is among married men.
- Marriage increases your earning power. You know that big-screen TV you’ve been saving for? Well, if you were married, you’d probably own it by now. Being married means sharing expenses and splitting the costs of major purchases. You cynics out there gripe about the money women cost you, but the money you’d spend on dinner dates and the occasional gift is dwarfed by the prospect of having an extra income in the household. Marriage means you can afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, and cooler stuff.
- Helps you to “correctly” build your family. OK, so technically you don’t need to be married to have a family, but marriage is still the standard method for starting a family. The nuclear family, despite its flaws, remains a sought-after model. That’s why having kids is another argument in the reasons to get married. Being a father is a dimension of manhood that just about every guy wants to experience — and marriage is the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family.
- Marriage prevent you from dying alone. Sure, you’re on a hot streak right now, dating 20-year-old yoga instructors and baristas, but we both know that’s not going to last forever. How’s being single going to work out for you when you’re 60, when you have hair in all of the wrong places and no one can stand to look at you? Marriage is an investment in your future. Sure, you sacrifice some of your sweet single years, but in exchange you get to make a long-term investment in one person, building a deep, abiding love that has the potential to last a lifetime.
- Marriage makes you more attractive. Justin Prugh covered in his AskMen.com article, “Why Do Single Women Like Taken Men”, married men are more attractive to other women. Now, I’m not suggesting that you should get married purely because it will make it easier to score with other women, but I am saying that marriage makes you appealing to the opposite sex. Getting attention from beautiful women feels good; it’s a confidence booster. Plus, when you go out with all of your single buddies, all of the hot women will be hitting on you. Who’ll be laughing then?
- Marriage brings financial benefits. There are numerous financial benefits associated with matrimony. For starters, there are tax breaks for married couples as well as for families. Getting married might also mean getting access to things like her premium health insurance plan. Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples. If you’re single, you’re out of luck.
- Marriage means more sex. Married men have more sex than single men do. It’s a fact — supported by study after study. A study done by the Kinsey Institute, for example, suggests that 23% of non-married men periodically go a year without sex, while only 1% of married men experience 12-month dry spells. Similarly, while 19% of single guys have sex two to three times a week, 36% of married men have sex that often. So, while single guys are out at the clubs, spending their paychecks just to get a girl’s attention, married men are home having sex with their wives.
- Marriage means better sex. One-night stands are exciting because of the thrill of the chase, granted, but often — too often — once the two of you get naked, you find yourselves fumbling and bumbling and unable to anticipate each others’ moves. Married couples know each other; they have a feel for each others’ bodies and are aware of their partner’s fantasies. Consequently, married sex is better than single sex. Further, a long, stable relationship lends itself to sexual experimentation. Admit it; there are things you’d love to try in bed that you’ve never told anyone because you were afraid of being judged. But in a long-term relationship founded on trust, you can give voice to your innermost desires.
- Married people are happier. A recent study done at an Australian university shows that married men are happier than single men. In fact, married men are 135% more likely to report a high happiness score than single men. That’s an astounding figure. Marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring partner.
- Marriage makes him a better man. If you’re a smart guy, you’ll choose to be with a woman who is insightful, opinionated and honest. That’s the kind of companion who can make you a better person. She can bring out the best in you. She can challenge you to be the best version of yourself. On top of that, through marriage you’ll learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise. In short, marriage will make you a Better Man.
Divorce rates have actually been in decline over the last two decade
Reasons Not To Get Married
- Marriage is the end of options. Variety is the spice of life. Spice is also the name of the stripper dancing on your lap and slipping you her cell number. No more of that Mr. Married. Settling down with one woman eliminates the wide selection of women and the thrill of the chase. No more flings with a coworker, gym pickups, one-night stands, and no more crazy chicks. Crazy chicks make dating so much fun! Plus, watch what happens the minute you get hitched. Not only do a ton of potential bed buddies come crawling out of the woodwork like carpenter ants, but all the women in your life that you could have scored with start admitting a sexual interest, but say: “Too bad you’re getting married.” Yes. Too bad indeed.
- Marrige is a constant compromise. Life is meant to be lived — to experience everything before the long dirt nap. Hard to accomplish everything when you spend half the time doing the things she wants to do. Well, you did get to pick the activity last week. You wanted to go to go white water rafting and now she wants to catch a Nicholas Sparks marathon on Lifetime and needs you around to watch her cry and restock her tissue supply. Compromise isn’t just associated with small decisions. You’re going to have to come to an agreement on where you live, where your money goes and a million other choices you make just to make her happy.
- You can opt for a domestic partnership. One of the benefits of getting married is that you’re legally recognized as a couple. Well, you don’t need to go to the chapel in order for that to be the case. In 11 different states, you have the option of signing up for a domestic partnership, which is a legal and formal recognition of your relationship, just like marriage. The benefits of this union differ in each state, and sometimes in each city or municipality. Do some research to find out what’s offered in your hometown.
- You don’t need to be married to have children. A Pew survey in 2010 showed that four out of ever 10 millennials actually viewed marriage as obsolete, particularly when it comes to having a family. We know we can still be the legal parents of our kids without having to walk down the aisle, Ultimately, educated women today don’t see marriage as the main event that kicks off your adult life. They’re able to accomplish a whole lot without tying the knot — including and especially having children. If you are ok with creating multiple families with multiple women, there is no need to marry.
- Marriages end in divorce anyway. Admittedly, divorce rates have actually been in decline over the last two decades. In 2011, there were 3.6 divorces per thousand people, while in 1990 there were 4.7 per thousand people. People who married in the 2000s are actually seeing a very low divorce rate, particularly if they’re college graduates, out of which only 11 percent were divorced before their seventh wedding anniversary. Even so, the divorce rate is still pretty high — around 30 percent of couples who got married in the 1990s were divorced before they hit their 15th anniversary. Sure, that number is lower than what it was 30 years ago, but it’s still significant enough to make us narrow our eyes in skepticism. Plus, the fear of divorce simply looms over our heads because, frankly, we’re still surrounded by it. We’ve seen parents, friends, and celebrities split up.
To or Not To, Get Married
With the divorce rate as high as it is, you want to give your union the best chance of surviving for the long haul. Therefore, if you are considering marriage, make sure you are getting married for the “right” reasons and not for “wrong” ones. It seems many have doubts right up to their planned wedding day yet go through with it anyway.
- To Have A Dream Wedding.
- To Get Presents.
- Because You Are Feeling Pressured.
- Because You Are Lonely.
- Your “Ex” Is Engaged.
- For In House Sex
- All You Friends Are Getting Married.
- Because You Are Expecting.
- Guilt From Parents.
- For Money.
- You Are In Love With One Another.
- Willingness to be there for one another while you each fulfill your own needs and dreams.
- You both have realistic expectations and shared goals.
- You want to feel connected with a person you love and to grow with that person emotionally.