Talk Dirty To Me
When you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom, dirty talk can easily come to mind. At face value, dirty talk seems relatively straightforward and easy to do. However, it can still be a bit daunting, awkward, and very intimidating. I mean, what would you even say?
As much as I love talking about sex, I don’t share the same enthusiasm for talking during it. Sure, an occasional moan might spill out, or, if I’m really turned on, something a bit more explicit might come out. But through my research I’ve found that for whatever reason (feelings of awkwardness or because they’re occupied in other ways) many don’t really focus on how to talk dirty during sex.
One the opposite side of this discussion, some people are really turned on by dirty talk including my partner. He tends to ask me to talk to him when my mind is on a wonderful vacation. I don’t require him to use his brain when he is using the other head, but we all are different. (hahaha). I do understand that when done right, dirty talking can really take sex to the next level. Talking dirty to your partner can get them motivated to please you completely. If you are providing them with enough intel to get the job done efficiently. Talking during sex also keeps everyone involved, more present in the moment. As your partner will likely tell you, it pays to think out loud. Here’s some advice on how to talk the (dirty) talk.
If you’re at a loss for where to begin, try using that confusion to your advantage. That is to say, ask questions. “This is really basic sexy talk, but still qualifies as playing the game, says Dana B. Myers, lifestyle expert and author of The Mommy Mojo Makeover; 28 Tools to Reclaim Your Sensuality & Reignite Your Relationship.
- Ask whether you look sexy?
- Ask them would they like you to wash their back in the shower?
- Ask what would they like for desert?
- Ask can you put it in your mouth (lick)
- Ask how it feels
- Ask do they want it?
Tell Them What You Want To Do To Them
If you’re feeling a little bolder, try whispering your plans for them gently in their ear. Trust me when I say a little dirty talk in a low voice will guarantee you their full attention.
- “I’m going tear off your clothes and have my way with you.”
- “I’m going to make you come so hard.”
- “Tonight I am going to kiss every inch of your body — and I mean *every* inch.”
Tell Them What You Want Them To Do To You
Once you’re fully feeling the fantasy, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what you want. Take control by giving them instructions on exactly what feels good for you.
- “Tonight I want you to take control.”
- “I’ve always wanted someone to spank me… and I want that someone to be you.”
- “I need you inside me… now.”
- “Make me come.”
Whoever said dirty talk was confined to the bedroom? “Try sending some sexy, playful text messages to your partner to build up the sexual tension throughout the day. It’s fun to take foreplay to digital planes. Emojis are a crucial and key part to sexting. Everyone always uses the eggplant, cherries, peach, water drops and tongue, to help properly express and paint a picture of all that they plan on doing to their partner. Using these emojis, will help guide your freaky sexting.
If you feel that you still wouldn’t be comfortable using emojis, then try using gifs. Gifs are great because they are like a mini video that showcases a person doing whatever it is that you searched for. Gifs will help a great deal in literally showing all that you want to do your partner’s body. Sending a seductive and nasty voice note to your partner is another way of sexting like a pro. You can send one from wherever you feel the most comfortable like your bedroom, bathroom or even car. Voice notes are always a sure way to guarantee immediate arousal.
Talking dirty in bed for the first time can seem a little scary, but you may be surprised by just how easily and naturally it rolls off the tongue once you get started. Not to mention how totally hot you may both find it. Just have fun and don’t be afraid to add a little verbal spice to your sex life at your own pace.