The Art Of Being A (F) Lady

The Art Of Being A (F’ing) Lady

Though our generation of mastering the art of “Twerking” and wearing “Daisy Dukes”, there is an art and skill that we have have put on the backburner for far too long. As a woman in a society filled with opportunities, we have a chance to flourish and standout by using our individual style. But while having our individual styles many have accused women of losing the art of being a lady. What I inform them is we have replaced it with the art of being a F’ing “Lady!”

The art of being a lady or a “f”ing lady” is something that each woman should take with pride in. A woman learns with maturity that being a woman with grace and class provides her with a certain amount of respect and attention from the opposite sex. The men are often ready to lend a hand to a woman just because she is a “woman“.  Which version of lady she decides to be will be determined by the type of man she is dealing with. We live in a world with people who come from many different backgrounds and whom have many different lifestyles. A successful woman is one who understands this and knows how to adapt or she is ok with dealing only with those who will love her style. A “F”ing lady is the woman who has decide to take full control of her life’s journey including her sexuality.


Being a lady is not about wearing dresses, make-up or having the perfect man on your arm taking care of you. Being a lady is a state of mind. It’s carrying yourself in a way that allows people to be aware that you know that you are worthy and is appreciative of that attention and/or protection, that is provided by those men whom attention she  has captured. Being a lady is about making everyone around you feel better about themselves. It is about giving grace when needed and knowing how to stand  up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. Being a lady is about understanding when to relinquish power and when to take the lead. Being a lady is understanding your powerful role as a woman in todays society.

Walking into Womanhood

A Woman Vs. A Lady

The woman can perform roles of wife, partner, organizer, administrator, director, re-creator, disburser, economist, mother, disciplinarian, teacher, health officer, artist and queen in the family at the same time. Apart from it, women plays a key role in the socio-economic development of the society. But what is the difference between a woman an a lady?

Being a lady simply means having etiquette, self-respect, class and appreciation (so maybe more people aspire to be a lady although they don’t know the full meaning of it). You know how to act in all situations and enjoy the different aspects of life. Every lady are usually women but not every woman aspire to be a lady. By adding the F’ing lady to the options list, maybe we can change the mindset of our younger women. They may be more incline to learn about being a lady if they aren’t placed in a particular box. 

These type of images were never thought of as “Lady-like” but why?

The art of being a lady is the skillful combination of confidence, graciousness and inner strength. You’ve seen her, she has a presence, an aura around herself. 

A lady is not envious of other women. When she is with her friends she remains poised and self-assured. Compassion and good nature enable her to speak kindly about other women. She’s happier all around because she maintains true friendships and cheers on other women. 

A lady has learned the fine art of humility, accepting herself, and uncompromising her values.

Misconceptions of Being a Lady

Facts Vs Fiction

Today, what it means to ‘be a lady’ is lost among the sea of messages of what one wears, what one talks about, who she hangs out with or where they dine, holiday, hang out. That is not accurate at all.

Here are some misconceptions of being a lady.

  1. A lady is elegant but not sexy. She is not carefree and free-spirited.
  2. A lady is so feminine, she doesn’t like sports.
  3. A lady is boring, she doesn’t say what she really thinks.
  4. Being a lady means you’re old-fashioned and boring. Only grannies care about being ladies.
  5. A lady can’t be fashionable. She has to wear conservative looking clothes
  6. A lady has to know all the rules of etiquette.

Your body language speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself. Carry yourself in a way that radiates warmth and confidence. You already know the basics, chin up and no slouching. Your true inner soul will shine when you are comfortable in your own skin. This may take some practice but it is totally possible and totally achievable! Own your confidence. Send a clear message that you are sincere and approachable.

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